Is Your Marriage Stuck in a Rut?
Marriage is meant to be more of a miracle than a mess. And in today’s fast-paced world, it’s easy to find ourselves stuck in a rut in our marriages, which makes them feel more like a mess than a miracle. And “rut living” just isn’t pleasant.
One of the ways I serve others as a Relationship Fitness Coach is to help couples get unstuck, and take their relationship “from Woe to WOW!” To free their life from a Predictable Future that they really don’t want to live into, and to work with them to design and live a compelling future that inspires and fulfills them!
If you’re married, stop for a moment and look into your future. What would you say is the Predictable Future of your marriage? If things continue like they are right now, what do you predict will happen in the years ahead? Is this a future that you and your partner want to live into? (By the way, if you don’t like what you see, it can be changed! You can INVENT a completely different future. More on that later!)
I’m convinced that one of the biggest reasons so many marriages end in divorce is because after a time, the couple stops living in the relationship consciously. One or both partners “fall asleep” and the relationship itself becomes habitual, boring, and all about “makin it.” The relationship becomes a “commitment to comfort” instead of a commitment to growth and contribution. And we end up with a “normalized marriage” where love withers, intimacy fades, and eventually you and/or your partner want out. This is what I would call “A Marriage of Woe.”
But, there can be great news about all of that. When something dies, the space is created for something else to be born! If you wake up someday and realize that your marriage is in a rut, and you’re headed into a future you don’t want, that awareness is the beginning of something new. That “woe” is inviting you into your “WOW!” – the end is simply an opportunity for a new beginning. The way things have been has run its course, NOW it’s time to invent something different: A Marriage of WOW! And this begins with a new vision for the relationship and a new vision for the future that you want to invent together. What is it that you and your partner want to create together? What is the vision of the future of your relationships that deeply inspires both of you and will demand the very best that each of you has to offer?
If you’re marriage is feeling more like a mess than a miracle, and you find yourself stuck in rut that is leading to an undesirable and Predictable Future, then I invite you to consider giving me a call at (812) 299-0214. I’d love to work with you and your partner in getting unstuck and creating a marriage that inspires and enlivens each of you, what I call “A Marriage of WOW!”
- Denver
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