Reigniting Passion and Intimacy in Your Marriage (Part 4 of 5)
Reignite Passion and Intimacy in Your Marriage
Welcome to Part 4 of the 5-part series entitled “Reigniting Passion and Intimacy in Your Marriage: From Resignation to Possibility” by Relationship Fitness Coach, Denver J. Hudson
Welcome back! Last time, I invited you and your partner to intentionally re-create a portion of your day together. Yes, to stand in this moment and declare yourselves as the intentional and active co-creators of your marriage and future together, beginning with a small portion of your day!
Declaring who you ARE for each other is one of the most dynamic and powerful actions you can take as a couple. When you commit to BEING a certain way together, you stand in the power of your beingness in your marriage. You are saying to each other, “This is who I am for you NO MATTER WHAT.” “This is who I am for you, even when the circumstances suck!” “This is who I am for you because I love you and want to create a fulfilling future with you!” “This is who I am for you because this is who I can CHOOSE to be for you!”
Here are four very powerful declarations you can make to each other that will cause a transformation in your relationship:
- “Who I am for you is your Passionate Lover.”
- “Who I am for you is your Intimate Best Friend. “
- “Who I am for you is your Conscious, Committed Partner.”
- “Who I am for you is an Active, Co-Creator.”
The power of these declarations occur in your life when you wake up each morning as an active expression of each of them! These are not declarations you make to each other one time and that’s it. You make these to each other, each day, in your heart and mind and expressed through your body. And you discuss together what it will actually look like – in specific behaviors – when you show up for each other in this way. In other words, what does it mean to each of you to be “a Passionate Lover”? What will that look like in your relationship? What does it mean to each of you to be “an Intimate Best Friend”? What will that look like in your relationship? And so on… How can you intentionally design your day in such a way that you can actually BE an expression of each of these four declarations for each other?
The mood of resignation does not stand a chance of forming in your relationship when you remain conscious and committed to being a living expression of each of the above four declarations! By being a Passionate Lover, Intimate Best Friend, Conscious Committed Partner and Active Co-Creator for each other, you ignite the space of your relationship with the energy and vibrancy of love and passion for each other. You generate together a mood of ambition in which you both stand, looking into the future as a commitment to move forward together. You commit to carving out the time to have conversations in which you can discuss and plan what you want to create together.
It doesn’t matter as much what you have been for each other, it matters more who you will BE for each other from this point forward. To transform the Woe of Resignation into the WOW! of Ambition, you have to be willing to let the past rest. Yes, declare the past as complete, finished. Celebrate it, honor it, and be thankful for it, but let it rest. Be willing to let go of the resentments, the blaming, the finger pointing, the record keeping, and stand together in this moment – right now – as a commitment to being the primary creative force in your lives together. From this day forward, focus your energy, your conversations, and your time on inventing the future that excites and will fulfill each of you!
Before we conclude this series with Part 5, I invite you and your partner to spend some time together making the four declarations mentioned earlier in this article (“Who I am for you is…”) Slow down, relax together, look each other in the eyes and speak these to each other. Then, have a conversation about what it means to be these for each other. Discuss the specific actions each of you will take to express these ways of being for each other. In other words, how will you live your day-to-day life being these for each other? As you share this experience together, notice what happens to your mood. Notice what happens to your passion and intimacy for each other; are they being reignited? Share with each other what this experience has meant for each of you.
How can I best support you and your partner in creating a Marriage of WOW!? If you would like some couples coaching around this topic, please contact me at (812) 236-5780 or by e-mail at denver@relationshipfitnessonline.com. You don’t have to do this alone.
Join The WOW! Movement! today and learn how to transform your relationships, health, and life from Woe to WOW! Aren’t YOU ready for more WOW! in your life?
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