Are Intimate Relationships for Everyone?
Contrary to what many people may think, not everyone is cut out to be in a committed, intimate relationship. It’s a demanding undertaking to commit yourself to being in a long-term intimate relationship with another person. And some people simply decide that such a relationship is not for them.
For some, “light” relationships and friendships are enough. If that describes you, then you may find yourself feeling weird in a world that caters to married couples. But I’m writing today to let you know that if you don’t feel that being in a committed, intimate relationship at this time in your life (or ever) is right for you, then you have chosen a legitimate path.
The most important thing is to consider what is most true for you and live your life with a deep integrity. If that means you live your life outside of a committed, intimate relationship and spend your time enjoying the company of friends and family, then congratulations! It is your choice.
If you choose not to be in a committed, intimate relationship, then Relationship Fitness is still an important concept for you to consider. Our lives are a network of relationships, and Relationship Fitness is all about becoming masterful at the art and science of healthy human relating – whether that is relating to yourself, a friend, a family member, a coworker, or life in general. Life is all about relationships and how we choose to relate within those relationships.
One of the things you’ll discover about me and see reflected on this website over and over is that deep respect I have for all people and the various ways we can choose to live our lives. I feel strongly about honoring and respecting people first as a human being and then working with them to invent a life that truly makes their whole being sing and dance – and that contributes to the lives of those around them.
Where ever you are right now in your life, take a moment to appreciate yourself and the healthy choices that you are making. And enjoy the holiday season with friends and family!
- Denver
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This is such a refreshing outlook. Reading this letter seemed to release a tension in me that I didn’t know was there. I wish more people could be so accepting of the personal choices of others. There is nothing to fear in embracing someone who chooses a relationship path that is different than the “norm” defined by the majority. We all have love to give, and to do so without judgment is one of the greatest gifts we can bestow.
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